Hate to start a debate of the sexes here, but I think it may be that women read and pick up on things differently. I've got to agree with Sue's comment. I didn't pick up anything negative in her first one. I thought that she was genuinely trying to understand where you're coming from, as I have. I also thought your reply was defensive, and you're passionate about your work, so I can understand that, too, if you felt that you or your work was being attacked.
Your poetry is different to anything that I, or I'm guessing, anybody else on here, has read before. You're right, you are unique, certainly in my experience. The problem that that throws up is that, as you say yourself, people are probably not going to understand until they actually read many of your poems and study your style (our problem, not yours.) I think it's great that you are getting more comments and that people are taking the time to ask you questions.
I am genuinely interested in what you write. I find you clever and admire your ability to put something new out there. You've been really patient with me and I think that we've built a respect and trust between us to be able to say what we think.I like to think that we're friends, as much as you can be on here. I've read quite a lot now, and you review for other people far more than most people do. It'd be good if you could be more of a lover than a fighter. I really like you and I'm certainly learning something but Sometimes you read a bit prickly.